The Newbie help thread

[Smouldering4Soul]

hi i need help posting. i want to sell my toys. thank you for any help i suck at this

[MachineDoll]

hi i need help posting. i want to sell my toys. thank you for any help i suck at this

Since BD took down the secondhand toy forums, your best bet would be to check the BD reddit.

[roseypearl]

hi i need help posting. i want to sell my toys. thank you for any help i suck at this

You can also try Dragon Hoard. I've never bought or sold anything so I can't tell you about the process,but a lot of people from here have moved to selling on dragon hoard since the 2nd hand threads were shut down

[TandTkink]

Hello from T and T!

[Hoofs_N_Horns]

Hello from T and T!

Welcome! :3

[Kreature]

As a first time user of any adult toy, choosing the right BD dildo has been a real thinker. Not a challenge per say, as I have some toys in mind. (my sig) But I'm never 100% sure as to who should be my first. Above anything, it must have a tapered head! Bumblehooves, Tyson and Chance, you boys are going to have to wait. I'm also looking for length rather than girth. So, tapered, not too girthy and has length, maybe.....Ika?

I'm also interested in oral. What model is good for oral play?

[DaedraQueen]

I'm also interested in oral. What model is good for oral play?

I personally love my small flint for oral, I cant get to the base because of how thick he is but feeling the plates under my tongue is amazing! Im super excited about trying Nox as well once he gets here!

Nova slides easily down my throat and i bought these super easy sticky round disc things (kinda like a suction cup) that i stick on the base and the wall and it stays pretty well i need to find them and take a picture for someone now that i remember but it does get me going as how easy it is to take it!

[Kreature]

I'm also interested in oral. What model is good for oral play?

I personally love my small flint for oral, I cant get to the base because of how thick he is but feeling the plates under my tongue is amazing! Im super excited about trying Nox as well once he gets here!

Nova slides easily down my throat and i bought these super easy sticky round disc things (kinda like a suction cup) that i stick on the base and the wall and it stays pretty well i need to find them and take a picture for someone now that i remember but it does get me going as how easy it is to take it!

Flint and Nox are good looking toys. Thanks for the input!

[Hoofs_N_Horns]

I'm also interested in oral. What model is good for oral play?

I went with the obvious choices for oral... medium Gryphon, small rex, small Chance. They didn't disappoint Penetrables are fun to use orally as well.

Most of my toys are too large for oral. Although now that I think about it, there might be a few others I could attempt next time I get my collection out. I just don't want to risk damaging them with my teeth.

[Bye Curiosity]

I don’t want to sound dumb, but What if I have a sex related question? Where do I go to ask away?

[DaedraQueen]

I don’t want to sound dumb, but What if I have a sex related question? Where do I go to ask away?

I mean you can ask it here or post in the sharing thread I guess whats up, you can always pm if you dont wanna ask on here ^^

[Bye Curiosity]

I don’t want to sound dumb, but What if I have a sex related question? Where do I go to ask away?

I mean you can ask it here or post in the sharing thread I guess whats up, you can always pm if you dont wanna ask on here ^^

No, I don’t mind sharing. It still so new to me and I’m trying to figure stuff out.

[DaedraQueen]

I don’t want to sound dumb, but What if I have a sex related question? Where do I go to ask away?

I mean you can ask it here or post in the sharing thread I guess whats up, you can always pm if you dont wanna ask on here ^^

No, I don’t mind sharing. It still so new to me and I’m trying to figure stuff out.

yup go ahead

[Bye Curiosity]

I mean you can ask it here or post in the sharing thread I guess whats up, you can always pm if you dont wanna ask on here ^^

No, I don’t mind sharing. It still so new to me and I’m trying to figure stuff out.

yup go ahead

Alright, I'll start by asking one of the questions I have in mine: What tips can you give me for taking a thick dildo with more ease? My medium/medium Pearce is pretty thick, but I feel I can handle that beast better with practice.

EDIT!!!!!!! I posted my second question in a thread I made about squirting!

[CakeLurker]

Alright, I'll start by asking one of the questions I have in mine: What tips can you give me for taking a thick dildo with more ease? My medium/medium Pearce is pretty thick, but I feel I can handle that beast better with practice.

I have a Small/firm Pearce, and one suggestion I have is to take the toy slow, but at different angles to get yourself used to the girth.

After inserting it normally (rightside-up while in missionary/on your back), try flipping the toy upside down, put it back in for a little stretch, switch back to normal, switch again, and repeat until you can take more and more of the toy's girth. Just be a little careful with the piercing and don't press it against your walls too much, and if you do, just angle him away from it as much as possible to avoid poking.

By all means, don't thrust with Pearce. Just let him slowly sink in and out between switches. It helps you stretch more, and it keeps the toy from getting dry on all sides. And when you can get most of him in, feel free to switch positions to whatever you want (cowgirl, etc.) but be sure you're comfortable first and not sore or anything. If it takes a lot of effort to move around with him and/or you're still getting accustomed to the stretch, then don't move out of missionary and just keep practicing on your back until you're more experienced with the toy and it becomes easier to use.

And when you get more experienced and used to Pearce, the same technique is good for a quick warm-up. But when you're starting out with Pearce of any size, always take him slow.

Hope this helps! I can't really recommend any training toys for Pearce because I didn't really have anything to train myself with at the time when I first got him, so hopefully someone else has a good toy to recommend to help practice with girth training.

[Bye Curiosity]

Alright, I'll start by asking one of the questions I have in mine: What tips can you give me for taking a thick dildo with more ease? My medium/medium Pearce is pretty thick, but I feel I can handle that beast better with practice.

I have a Small/firm Pearce, and one suggestion I have is to take the toy slow, but at different angles to get yourself used to the girth.

After inserting it normally (rightside-up while in missionary/on your back), try flipping the toy upside down, put it back in for a little stretch, switch back to normal, switch again, and repeat until you can take more and more of the toy's girth. Just be a little careful with the piercing and don't press it against your walls too much, and if you do, just angle him away from it as much as possible to avoid poking.

By all means, don't thrust with Pearce. Just let him slowly sink in and out between switches. It helps you stretch more, and it keeps the toy from getting dry on all sides. And when you can get most of him in, feel free to switch positions to whatever you want (cowgirl, etc.) but be sure you're comfortable first and not sore or anything. If it takes a lot of effort to move around with him and/or you're still getting accustomed to the stretch, then don't move out of missionary and just keep practicing on your back until you're more experienced with the toy and it becomes easier to use.

And when you get more experienced and used to Pearce, the same technique is good for a quick warm-up. But when you're starting out with Pearce of any size, always take him slow.

Hope this helps! I can't really recommend any training toys for Pearce because I didn't really have anything to train myself with at the time when I first got him, so hopefully someone else has a good toy to recommend to help practice with girth training.

Thank you for the tip! I was able to finish off by being on my side with the Prince Albert facing the G Spot area (I think I did more than have the big O, but that’s a question I’ll save for a little later, unless you or anyone wants to know), but I’ll try the missionary trick. Would lube help too? I have some water based (I think they’re for toys, but I’m not sure) for a while, but I’m thinking a thicker lube might help out too.

[Cynic Dickic]

Would lube help too? I have some water based (I think they’re for toys, but I’m not sure) for a while, but I’m thinking a thicker lube might help out too.

Are you saying that thus far you've only been using Pearce with water based lube, or none at all? Lube always helps, especially when it's a toy as girthy as Pearce, but I can't really say on other kinds of lube as I've been sticking to water-based so far since it's safer for the toys.

Water based is what's reccomended for silicone toys like BD's, silicone lube can do some serious damage and I'm not too sure about other kinds.

Anyways, it will definetely help but I don't know if it will be efficient. I've heard that smooth toys like Pearce have a habit of squeegee-ing lube off and into whatever orifice it's inserted in, but that might be more true for anal than vaginal since the anus is very tight and on untextured toys like Pearce there are no ridges or creases for the lube to hang on to.

[CakeLurker]

Thank you for the tip! I was able to finish off by being on my side with the Prince Albert facing the G Spot area (I think I did more than have the big O, but that’s a question I’ll save for a little later, unless you or anyone wants to know), but I’ll try the missionary trick. Would lube help too? I have some water based (I think they’re for toys, but I’m not sure) for a while, but I’m thinking a thicker lube might help out too.

I haven't really used any lube other than coconut oil, which does help with girth especially for the middle of the shaft but I only used it a couple of times since I just don't like using lube in general lol. Haven't used any lube for more than a year now either, so I don't really know what to recommend and coconut oil isn't really that thick anyway. EDIT: wouldn't recommend coconut oil either.

If you do ever get some lube, just put it on the upper-middle to middle part of the shaft as that's where most of the stretching is (and also where it can easily get dry). I wouldn't worry about the lower shaft since lube tends to drip down anyway (or just ends up there because... sticky hands lol).

And can partially confirm what Cynic says: I have no idea how Pearce works for anal but can partially confirm that lube doesn't really "cling" onto the shaft that well (it does for the head region though) and often drips further down the toy or comes off in the vagina. I remember having to reapply coconut oil at least once, but like I said it was a long time ago.

But definitely keep the jar/bottle of lube you have nearby just in case.

[Bye Curiosity]

Would lube help too? I have some water based (I think they’re for toys, but I’m not sure) for a while, but I’m thinking a thicker lube might help out too.

Are you saying that thus far you've only been using Pearce with water based lube, or none at all? Lube always helps, especially when it's a toy as girthy as Pearce, but I can't really say on other kinds of lube as I've been sticking to water-based so far since it's safer for the toys.

Water based is what's reccomended for silicone toys like BD's, silicone lube can do some serious damage and I'm not too sure about other kinds.

Anyways, it will definetely help but I don't know if it will be efficient. I've heard that smooth toys like Pearce have a habit of squeegee-ing lube off and into whatever orifice it's inserted in, but that might be more true for anal than vaginal since the anus is very tight and on untextured toys like Pearce there are no ridges or creases for the lube to hang on to.

I started off using the wetness that I produced, but when I feared it wasn’t enough, I used the water based lube that I’ve hard lying around. I don’t know if it’s because it’s old or too weak, I felt little difference using it. I know about the two types of lube and I stick strictly to water based lube for all my toys. I’ve read on here Sliquid Sassy is a good water based lube that’s on the thick side. It’s for anal, but I also read its good for vaginal use too.

[Bye Curiosity]

Thank you for the tip! I was able to finish off by being on my side with the Prince Albert facing the G Spot area (I think I did more than have the big O, but that’s a question I’ll save for a little later, unless you or anyone wants to know), but I’ll try the missionary trick. Would lube help too? I have some water based (I think they’re for toys, but I’m not sure) for a while, but I’m thinking a thicker lube might help out too.

I haven't really used any lube other than coconut oil, which does help with girth especially for the middle of the shaft but I only used it a couple of times since I just don't like using lube in general lol. Haven't used any lube for more than a year now either, so I don't really know what to recommend and coconut oil isn't really that thick anyway.

If you do ever get some lube, just put it on the upper-middle to middle part of the shaft as that's where most of the stretching is (and also where it can easily get dry). I wouldn't worry about the lower shaft since lube tends to drip down anyway (or just ends up there because... sticky hands lol).

And can partially confirm what Cynic says: I have no idea how Pearce works for anal but can partially confirm that lube doesn't really "cling" onto the shaft that well (it does for the head region though) and often drips further down the toy or comes off in the vagina. I remember having to reapply coconut oil at least once, but like I said it was a long time ago.

But definitely keep the jar/bottle of lube you have nearby just in case.

I’ve heard about using coconut oil before. My one issue is is it really good and safe to use for lube?