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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Aether » Mon Jan 25, 2016 5:44 pm

This started happening to me too recently! I always have the toys sent via UPS, but only on my most recent package did I notice the SILICONE SCULPTURE in obvious text on the package. I had a bunch of other boxes from before that I hadn't thrown away and they did not have this written on them.

I was pretty horrified and now if I order toys anytime soon, I guess I'll be doing so via Fedex. I am so glad I'm super vigilant about the UPS truck and always get to it before anyone else can. Even if some folks know that I get personal items and will leave it at that if I tell them so, I really would not like for anyone in my household to accept the package from the UPS guy and see SILICONE SCULPTURE staring back at them. That leaves little to the imagination once they're already aware of the personal nature of some of my mail. :surprised:

What happened to EquineLover really sucks. I'm fortunate that nobody around here really cares, but I still wouldn't want them to see that label. I'm especially concerned about why this is happening suddenly when it isn't normal for domestic packages to have this on them.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Esuna » Mon Jan 25, 2016 5:55 pm

Aether wrote:This started happening to me too recently! I always have the toys sent via UPS, but only on my most recent package did I notice the SILICONE SCULPTURE in obvious text on the package. I had a bunch of other boxes from before that I hadn't thrown away and they did not have this written on them.

I was pretty horrified and now if I order toys anytime soon, I guess I'll be doing so via Fedex. I am so glad I'm super vigilant about the UPS truck and always get to it before anyone else can. Even if some folks know that I get personal items and will leave it at that if I tell them so, I really would not like for anyone in my household to accept the package from the UPS guy and see SILICONE SCULPTURE staring back at them. That leaves little to the imagination once they're already aware of the personal nature of some of my mail. :surprised:

What happened to EquineLover really sucks. I'm fortunate that nobody around here really cares, but I still wouldn't want them to see that label. I'm especially concerned about why this is happening suddenly when it isn't normal for domestic packages to have this on them.


It sounds like UPS might have changed their policies. Maybe they now require a description? That might explain why it only started to happen somewhat recently. People who use UPS should be made aware of this so they know that UPS now has the label that might out them. :surprised:
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby KatieCD » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:08 pm

Personally I only use UPS and have gotten many orders from BD without "silicone sculpture" or anything else incriminating on the package.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EquineLover95 » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:15 pm

KatieCD wrote:Personally I only use UPS and have gotten many orders from BD without "silicone sculpture" or anything else incriminating on the package.

I'm done with ups, hell half the time back when i was living by myself they would just drop packages off at my neighbors so they didn't have to make another stop. They only time ups would stop at my house was if i needed to sign. FedEx will either put them in the mailbox or stick them on the front porch. As far as I'm concerned, this was the final nail in the ups coffin for me.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby mynickname » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:26 pm

How about we stop blaming the stressed out victim and offer some helpful suggestions?

  1. Never trust expected delivery dates
  2. Packages can be held at the post office / warehouse and picked up (option for future orders)
  3. Federal laws are generally prosecuted by the government. It'll likely be near impossible to convince the government you've been hurt enough to warrant a case against your mom. If you try this, expect to never see your family or relatives again.
  4. You could bring a civil suite, but since the item wasn't damaged it'll be for emotional/stress reasons. The amount you get out of it wouldn't be worth it. You'll never see your family again and half the people you tell in the future will instantly dislike you. Expect to be plastered around online when the story gets picked up by a newspaper.
  5. You can lie. Say the toy was bought as a gag gift for someone else. (or actually give it to someone else and it won't be a lie)
  6. You can lie. Say the toy was bought for a friend because they were too ????? to buy it themselves.
  7. You can lie? Say you've heard a lot about prostate cancer and how it kills more people than breast cancer (It does. Where are all the support prostate research ribbons?) You read prostate stimulation helps prevent it so you wanted to try to decrease your risk of cancer. Research showed a bluge (a ball/bluge, not a knot) like Rex's could reach the prostate so that's what you got. Offer to buy one for your dad since the risk is greater as you get older.
  8. You don't need to be bi to enjoy anal. There's no reason to tell your parents you're bi. You don't even need to say you enjoy anal. This might be first time you were going to try it because you heard people talking about it.
  9. If they figure out it's modeled off a dog's penis, deny anything related to bestiality, especially if you guys have a pet. The toy is recommended for prostate stimulation.
  10. When you're in a house, you're expected to abide by the rules of the home's owner. If you can't, then don't claim to be an adult and don't try to live there.
  11. Confirm you've addressed any safety issues they might bring up. Don't point out how/if they're wrong, point out how you have/will address an issue. People will be thinking more emotionally than logically, so you'll need to address the emotions. If you're agreeing with everything they're saying, what's this argument about again?
  12. Expect everything you do will now be more closely monitored.
  13. If you haven't secured any electronic devices with embarrassing info do it ASAP.
  14. Make sure your other toys are un-discoverable. Do it ASAP. If that means burying them in the trash then do so. If you're going to open up to your parents and try to get them to accept how you are, then you might be able to skip this. But it'll probably be better for them if you've only done it a little and the fewer animal looking toys you have the better.

If you go with any of the less than truthful options, I suggest you ask everyone to delete their posts. You won't want your parents finding this topic.

*I'm not a lawyer but I'm playing one online.

Please post back how it went. I'm sure a lot of people here are in similar situations with religious parents. Most topics you find online like this are from people who don't have religious parents.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby 3TK » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:32 pm

Starting to regret picking UPS as my postal for my next toys if this is true, and others have had issues... :unamused: The mail is typically good in my area, especially the apartment complexes...but still worries me a bit. :surprised:

I'm sorry to hear what happened to you, EquineLover95. I'm not sure what I'd do in that situation... :/
On one hand, I want to joke and say "hey, they're just sculptures! I'm into modern art!" and see if that works.
The other, more serious side, knows how stressful it is to live under parents' thumbs. Particularly ones who treat you like a child and/or don't want to believe you have different beliefs than them. :eyeroll:
No matter what happens, I hope it works out for you. :misc2: :sniffing:
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EquineLover95 » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:36 pm

I'm half tempted to buy a meng just so i can keep it handy and say thats what was in the box for situations like this
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Samson » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:44 pm

Good thing I never pick UPS. I never did in the first place because my uncle is a delivery person and I don't want to have the off chance of him seeing my package/knowing what's inside. :surprised:

Sorry to hear about your situation OP. I am not sure if it is something BD can really control, sadly. Have you sent them a ticket? I wonder if they even know UPS is doing this.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Jasmine » Mon Jan 25, 2016 6:48 pm

Just as a head's up, a toy I had held at a FedEx depot had Bad Dragon written across one whole side of the box in thick sharpie. I've never had an issue with their home delivery service (including my most recent order that arrived a few weeks ago), but the holding service is a completely different experience. They only hold your package for three days and then they ship it back, so you gotta make sure you get that delivery notification email ASAP. I didn't realize my Flint had already been dropped at the depot and I was an hour or two away from him being mailed away :eyeroll:

Anyways, best of luck OP. I would personally pull the "At least I'm not going after real penis!" card, but you know your folks best. Don't hide all your toys in one place if you're worried about inspection. It's cruel, but better to lose one or two than all of them.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EvL » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:05 pm

I'm sorry you are going through this!
Religion can really make some people miserable and scared. :( Glad it isn't that way for everyone, but man, so much misery and hurt.
My advice is, if you are staying with them because of financial reasons, and you aren't kicked out over this, save every bit of money you are making from here on out so that you can get your own place. Don't spend any more on BD and the like until you can get out of that living situation. Bad Dragon is super popular, they'll keep. :}
I do understand "their house, their rules," but that doesn't excuse violating your privacy in such a way. Even living with someone, you should be given basic respect and privacy.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby thesharkwhisperer » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:20 pm

How do you even buy luxury sextoys if your financial situation forced you to move back with your parents ? Since my financial situation dropped 3 months ago I don't even know how I manage to get to the end of every month :surprised: ( stress and a lot of benzos, that is how I guess )
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EquineLover95 » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:27 pm

thesharkwhisperer wrote:How do you even buy luxury sextoys if your financial situation forced you to move back with your parents ? Since my financial situation dropped 3 months ago I don't even know how I manage to get to the end of every month :surprised: ( stress and a lot of benzos, that is how I guess )

Made to order toys take a while to make, allot can happen in that time.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby thesharkwhisperer » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:29 pm

EquineLover95 wrote:
thesharkwhisperer wrote:How do you even buy luxury sextoys if your financial situation forced you to move back with your parents ? Since my financial situation dropped 3 months ago I don't even know how I manage to get to the end of every month :surprised: ( stress and a lot of benzos, that is how I guess )

Made to order toys take a while to make, allot can happen in that time.

Then it's understandable, sorry for my intrusion.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EquineLover95 » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:40 pm

thesharkwhisperer wrote:
EquineLover95 wrote:
thesharkwhisperer wrote:How do you even buy luxury sextoys if your financial situation forced you to move back with your parents ? Since my financial situation dropped 3 months ago I don't even know how I manage to get to the end of every month :surprised: ( stress and a lot of benzos, that is how I guess )

Made to order toys take a while to make, allot can happen in that time.

Then it's understandable, sorry for my intrusion.

No, not at all, all good man :sniffing:
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby wildcat » Mon Jan 25, 2016 7:50 pm

silvring wrote:
wildcat wrote:The relationship you have with your parents does provide you with a idea of what your relationships with significant other will be like. So I'd say improve your relationship with your parents. At least your mom.

Given his mention of religious influence he could have the best parent-child relationship out of any of us here and getting a dildo would still be an issue. Eternal salvation is at stake you know, not to mention social acceptance and parental expectations.


Huh. If his parents respected him they wouldn't have opened his package. If he had said he was getting a package they possibly wouldn't either. Since were speculating people's thoughts. He's the one with financial issues purchasing 100+$ products causing him to move in with his parents. Want before need.!?

I grew up in the a bible belt, no booze, no pornos... nothing. Spent every sunday at church for at least 15yrs plus church school 5 days a week. My mother still goes 3 days a week. That being said i didn't speak to my family for 13yrs because of personal differences. When i did i sat down with them and said who i was, what i wanted/needed, them the same. Now its an open honest respectful relationship.

I'm adult. This person isn't or he wouldn't be in this situation. He knew his parents life choice, he violated their space then blames a 3rd party. So what are we really talking about here. Sounds like suing your parents? How fucked is that? Again blaming a 3rd party for his strife. Live with your choices and become a man.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby EquineLover95 » Mon Jan 25, 2016 8:16 pm


Huh. If his parents respected him they wouldn't have opened his package. If he had said he was getting a package they possibly wouldn't either. Since were speculating people's thoughts. He's the one with financial issues purchasing 100+$ products causing him to move in with his parents. Want before need.!?

I grew up in the a bible belt, no booze, no pornos... nothing. Spent every sunday at church for at least 15yrs plus church school 5 days a week. My mother still goes 3 days a week. That being said i didn't speak to my family for 13yrs because of personal differences. When i did i sat down with them and said who i was, what i wanted/needed, them the same. Now its an open honest respectful relationship.

I'm adult. This person isn't or he wouldn't be in this situation. He knew his parents life choice, he violated their space then blames a 3rd party. So what are we really talking about here. Sounds like suing your parents? How fucked is that? Again blaming a 3rd party for his strife. Live with your choices and become a man.

As i've said multiple times now, the toy was in production for going on 3 weeks now, plus i wasn't expecting to have to pay a 2600$ payment to my vet for my puppy that broke her leg, on top of a house rental payment and a truck payment. People have finical issues at times. Just because someone is having financial troubles and has a dick of a landlord that doesn't mean that their not an adult. On top of that, i never said anything about suing my parents, some random user said that i should press charges and it picked up on others for some god unknown reason. And tell me, how was i violating my parents space? My mother took a package and opened it, at no point did i whip out a dildo and start smacking her in the face yelling THIS IS ME ACCEPT IT OR UN-OWN ME BIRTHGIVER.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Raya » Mon Jan 25, 2016 10:25 pm

Esuna wrote:
EquineLover95 wrote:
Dakaath wrote:I found the answer!

Seeing this, I checked the four order boxes I had sitting around, cause I'm in a similarish situation.
And low and behold, half of them have 'Silicone Sculpture' on the side.

Those two were from UPS

Were as the ones I sprang the extra $3 for from Fedex (Who I found I generally like more anyway. And think it might have beent he faster Fedex as well) do not have that label on them.

So, UPS = Description Line with 'Silicone Sculpture'

Fedex = no description

Granted, I can't speak for all the types of shipping, just the two types I got.

Considering my other 5 packages have all been Fedex, and this is the first from ups i think ya might be right there :misc3:


So it was due to the courier that was chosen? That's interesting to know. Thank goodness the shipping I would choose was going to be FedEx anyway! (FedEx 1-5 bus. days $12.71, UPS 1-5 bus. days $12.87)

It's too bad you got put in such a difficult situation all because it was UPS who brought your package rather than FedEx! (Assuming your mother would have left your package alone if it HADN'T had that label.)



I ONLY use UPS and Iv never gotten that label on my packages. It seems you just got it out of random or something else, or its a new thing started the first of this year.
Also, Iv seen other things with the title of "Silicone Sculpture" as in a TMNT figure my friend got once. Back in high school my ceramics teacher told us all the things you can make with silicone and she showed up a video on Silicone Sculptures so unless she knew you were Bi and she know from the very start what was in it because she shouldnt have known "Silicone Sculpture" meant a dildo.

To me it looks like your mom was just plain nosy, or she ordered one of her own so she knew what it was.

And Im not saying you should come out and tell then right away. If my sisters knew I believe the Bible is a book of lies (my opinion) they would have it out for me. My sisters would go after my dad to kick me out and so on. I think my dad already knows but he as long as Im not worshiping the devil or trying to hurt people in the name a God hes not one to care really but I hate being judged by people.

Yes ONE DAY you are going to have to tell then and if they dont like it then even tho you love them they are just going to have to deal with it or say your goodbyes because no one should make you feel bad, afraid or ashamed of who you are. If they truely love you then they would put that aside and see you as their son, nothing more nothing less.
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I know its nothing like how you are going through but yea its still hard, I still get shit from people about it even from my own boyfriend but thats just life not everyone is going it like it.
But as I said theres a time and place to talk to them about it (like after you get your own place again) but its up to you when but its something that has to be done.
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby wintern101 » Tue Jan 26, 2016 12:37 am

Oh dear this tread has me worried, I ordered my first BD and its getting shipped UPS. I doubt my mother would care but the embarrassment NNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! :crying:
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Virus » Tue Jan 26, 2016 12:57 am

I'm so sorry to hear that, OP. I almost had the same issue as you, seeing as I live outside the US, the box always states 'Silicone Sculpture' for customs, no biggie, I lie it's a display toy and folks are--- ok with it as long as they don't sniff around room, I'm happy. God knows what'd happen if they found out what I've been spending my paychecks on when I should be 'saving it up', having such a low pay as me, almost at minimum. :scheming:

It was all fine and dandy until last toy that got stuck at customs (charged for VAT because it was over 25$) and the customs office literally wrote 'SEXUAL AID' with huge, capital letters in the declaration papers they stuck outside in a special, transparent pouch (?). I was piss mad, thank god my mum didn't sniff around, or worse, opened up the package, but I guess there's always that paranoia present when ordering dongs online. :surprised:
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Re: Seriously BD

Postby Umbral » Tue Jan 26, 2016 2:16 am

I'm sorry this happened to you, and that you have a nosy and narrow-minded parents that you have to deal with. Every order I get says 'Silicone sculpture' due to customs, but recently I ordered 9 bottles of cumlube with an adoption and when it arrived, there was a square of paper in the order clearly on display that said CUMLUBE, with the ingredients where it could be seen. the invoice also said 'personal lubricant' as well as 'silicone sculpture' where everyone who handled my box had no illusion what was in it.

Thankfully I live in my own house with my hubby, so I didn't have to deal with nosy parents, but there comes a point in every parent and child's life when people have to realize that the child is autonomous from the parent. Your mother should not have opened the package and it isn't their business what mail you get so long as you aren't getting illegal mail.

I hope you don't get kicked out of the house over this and that you and your family can come to some understanding or some truce of sorts. I had a similar family to yours so I can understand how stressful that is. Hopefully in the future this situation can be avoided, but you cannot fully blame BD, especially since this could have been something UPS has decided upon doing with the new year.
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