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Time management and Adult sites- How do you do it?

Postby AustinFetish » Fri Oct 28, 2016 10:46 am

How do you manage your time spent on adult sites? I could spend all day! Some of it is on tumblr looking at pics of dongs and nude people, but a lot of it is on this forum or Reddit. I can't seem to stay in control. I'll blow hours more than I intend to, and I'll also run on very little sleep. I've been not getting enough sleep for too many years. Yes, years.... I go through brief periods of less internet use, but after a couple of weeks, the flood gates bust open. :buddy:
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Postby Amaranthe » Fri Oct 28, 2016 10:51 am

What you've got is a problem. Porn addiction is a real thing. I hope you can learn some coping skills! Nudies are great, but not when they start interfering with your life :unamused:
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Postby katze » Fri Oct 28, 2016 10:55 am

Amaranthe wrote:What you've got is a problem. Porn addiction is a real thing. I hope you can learn some coping skills! Nudies are great, but not when they start interfering with your life :unamused:


I agree.

This forum is about the only adult site I go on. On occasion that changes. I spend most of my time gaming and drawing. Or at work.
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Postby Vitani » Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:04 am

Hmm.

I kinda just hang out on here when I have the free time, and even then, I rarely (if ever) visit the naughty pics thread. I like to look at pretty toys here though :P Never was into actual porn sites though.

Most of my time is spent working, either at my day job, or doing art commissions, taking my dog out, or date nights with the BF.
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Postby Unam » Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:05 am

Self discipline, really. This kinda stuff is literally addictive and can get out of hand like any other vice! If you think looking at lewd stuff is cutting into your sleep or work time then you should try monitoring your habits, and setting gentile limits. 30 mins on one board, 30 on reddit, 30 here, so on and so forth. I remember pronz was cutting into my sleep schedule a few years back as late at night was the only time in the day I had to myself, so I eventually had to set a fixed time where I had to shut the computer down and go to sleep every night. If I didn't get to look at anything before that time hit, too bad. Save adult stuff for a particular time and place, and try not to overdo it the best you can.

Best advice I can give is to work on any productive/creative hobbies you may have. They keep you focused and pushing ahead!
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Postby dasadevil » Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:21 am

I just got a job that requires me to look at adult sites all day

No problems here!
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Postby Amaranthe » Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:37 am

dasadevil wrote:I just got a job that requires me to look at adult sites all day

No problems here!

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Postby Curiosa » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:20 pm

It's never really been adult sites for me, just diy sites like Ravelry and Pinterest, as well as Steam for my gaming habit. But yeah, it can be difficult to manage time online/gaming but establishing good online habits is a good start. Usually I was too busy during college, but I'd set alarms for what time I needed to go to bed and back up alarms for if I ever ignored the first alarms.

It's also good to establish 'rest days' for when you abstain from either online activity or specifically adult online activity. Like I'd abstain from porn for a bit so I wouldn't build up a tolerance for it. Then again I do the same for caffeine and alcohol, so maybe that's just a thing I do with any addictive thing.
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Postby Mettaton » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:29 pm

I usually wait until I have some time. I have an alt account on FA where I watch and fave people/things that I'm into. I usually won't log into it unless I am in a position to buzz one out. Once I have my orgasm, I am like, 100% done with looking at things. Usually it only takes about 30 minutes. I try to be efficient.
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Postby Rainbow Dasher » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:48 pm

Amaranthe wrote:What you've got is a problem. Porn addiction is a real thing. I hope you can learn some coping skills! Nudies are great, but not when they start interfering with your life :unamused:


I agree. This is an addiction plain and simple. You need help to get it under control. Enjoying porn is one thing, but when it impacts your sleep and your waking life, because you can't get enough and, as you say "have no control", you need help.
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Postby kt~ » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:49 pm

I guess my "adult" vices are fantasy toys and R18 doujinshi.

I've spent a lot of time on exhentai reading doujinshi, and spent a lot of money purchasing doujinshi for myself (they're only sold in Japan so shipping them can get pretty expensive).

I have too many hobbies :sniffing:
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Postby mynickname » Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:21 pm

Make your life better so you get more enjoyment out of life than you do out of watching porn. The enjoyment of porn doesn't last long where as the enjoyment out of an accomplishment or a good friendship lasts a lot longer. Are you watching these sites simply out of habit, because it's porn, as escapism, because you fear you'll miss an interesting post, etc... If you figure out what exactly is driving your behaviors it's easier to change them.

Poor sleep reduces your self-control. The first thing you should do is reduce the brightness of all your lighting down to their lowest levels after the sun sets. That'll help reduce the impact screens have on keeping you awake.

Do you stop looking at porn after you orgasm? If so, masturbating earlier in your porn sessions could help reduce their duration. Fully milking your prostate can reduce a male's sex drive for days, so that's available as an option too.
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Postby AustinFetish » Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:37 pm

I tend to spend way more times on forums. I read about or talk about things that I can not in my real life. Even when I had a 2 poly girlfriends, they could look at dildos and appreciate them a little bit, but they didn't have an interest in talking about them much.

On BD forums or reddit, I can talk about dildo size....so.....so..... much.

mynickname is onto something. My real time life is less satisfying than what I see online.

I do have some other hobbies. I garden and ride horses, but both of those are not as exciting as reading forum posts here, generally.
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Postby GraveDigger78 » Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:47 pm

I don't want to sound mean or acquisitive but what you describe is bordering on "addiction" levels of intruding on your life and what you need to do.
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Postby Kisa » Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:54 pm

I only go on adult sites when I want to get off. I spend an hour looking around, getting myself worked up then I go off to take care of myself.

Sounds like you may be developing a problem, when it cuts into your life like that... that's when a lot of people would say that an addiction has happened.
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Postby mynickname » Fri Oct 28, 2016 1:59 pm

Sounds more like self-medicating for minor depression or loneliness than porn addiction since you're communicating rather than just consuming content. Looking at pictures all day is a waste of time, but interacting on forums can give you a lot of knowledge. Sounds like you might need a change of social groups. Maybe plan on attending a convention? Or even better giving a talk at one or writing an extensive guide for people trying to become a size queen. Keep in mind what you see online are distorted views of other people. Don't judge yourself by how others sound or look in their posts.

It's only a bad thing when it's hurting other areas of your life that you want or need to improve in.
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Postby AustinFetish » Fri Oct 28, 2016 2:09 pm

Self medicating for being lonely, yes. Also for not having what I want in my real life.

I think that I have some addiction too, but it usually only gets to that level for a couple of days every 6 weeks or so.

Trying to totally abstain has made it worse for me. For 4 years I didn't attempt to totally abstain. I tried it twice since May. Every time I behave more like an addict for about 2 to 3 weeks afterwards, then I level off.
At that point I still let myself down spending too much time online, but I'm not as supremely out of balance as when I have a streak of 3 addictive days (like today!).
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Postby Willow » Fri Oct 28, 2016 3:26 pm

I don't work, so I got a lot of free time. When I'm in the mood, I seek out porn for a while (I have my favorites) or do a search for my interests. But I can either stop if I feel I need to get something done (laundry, trash, chores in general) or just ...erm, finish up. I usually go at it for an hour but I'm not aware of that much time passing... as if my brainwaves are somewhere between beta and alpha, during alpha your sense of time is distorted. I dunno, I'm not a neurologist.
But after I done, I don't look for porn anymore. I look a slashdot, facebook, check my mail, look at furry por- no, nope, done with that for now... but you get what I mean. I don't consider BD to be porn, so it really doesn't count.
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Postby AustinFetish » Fri Oct 28, 2016 3:45 pm

Ha, I'm just as likely to stroke it to a forum post as to anything visual.

I actually don't stroke it that much while surfing porn even. I edge a little bit, and press on it here and there, but..... after 2 or 3 days, I need to cum. I actually just cum while not looking at the internet more often lately. I can image the scenario exactly as I want it to be, while porn doesn't always have the details that I like. I like the browsing and knowing what's on the next page. I don't cum often.
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Postby Mettaton » Fri Oct 28, 2016 4:12 pm

AustinFetish wrote:Self medicating for being lonely, yes. Also for not having what I want in my real life.

I think that I have some addiction too, but it usually only gets to that level for a couple of days every 6 weeks or so.

Trying to totally abstain has made it worse for me. For 4 years I didn't attempt to totally abstain. I tried it twice since May. Every time I behave more like an addict for about 2 to 3 weeks afterwards, then I level off.
At that point I still let myself down spending too much time online, but I'm not as supremely out of balance as when I have a streak of 3 addictive days (like today!).


If you're lonely, are there other things you do? Besides the couple of hobbies you listed, do you play games or anything like that? Does looking around on the forums sate your loneliness? Or do you play games or draw or something to help with that too?

You could always try to do other fun stuff in real life. No need to abstain, just... moderate ^^ Do other fun stuff with your time too! Volunteering at the shelter doesn't excite me, but it's a productive use of my time that entertains and fulfills me. It gets me around people/animals which helps with any loneliness too ^^
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