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Staying hard while toying

Postby Soulstrider » Wed Sep 28, 2016 9:34 pm

Every time I've toyed at some point I have a tough time staying hard. I'm fine when not toying but it concerns me that my body is having a hard time with erections while toying anally. :doh:

I do everything correctly, use plenty of lube, clean out thoroughly, I don't force it in, and I don't have ED.

Does anyone else have this problem?
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby katze » Wed Sep 28, 2016 9:38 pm

It's completely common. I don't know of any solutions, but there's nothing wrong with you.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Soulstrider » Wed Sep 28, 2016 9:40 pm

katze wrote:It's completely common. I don't know of any solutions, but there's nothing wrong with you.


Really? That makes me feel better! Thanks! ^w^
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Lipton » Wed Sep 28, 2016 9:45 pm

Its quite normal for anal stuff. If you dont use your hands, your dick isnt stimulated and so it goes back to soft. You dont need to be hard to cum if you are able to reach the orgasmn handfree only with anal stimulation.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Rainbow Dasher » Wed Sep 28, 2016 9:58 pm

It's all normal. My husband is never hard when I use toys on him, but even so he can still orgasm, hands free, just about every time.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Wolfcat » Wed Sep 28, 2016 10:13 pm

It happens to me, too, and I used to have the same worry, but despite what furry art may have you believe, it's common to go soft during anal (especially while using bigger stuff, I've found.)

It kind of sucks. From a fantasy point of view, I'd rather be *hard* while getting plowed. With a partner, it would be a (pretty) sure sign of arousal, and avoid confusion. But it is what it is.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Saromel » Thu Sep 29, 2016 8:01 pm

It's normal and I don't think it changes anything. I can toy for hours and stay soft most of the time and I still enjoy myself.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Sadalmelik » Sun Oct 02, 2016 9:01 am

As others have said, I'm the same way. It actually concerned me at first, too. Orgasms definitely feel different when toying. All that pleasure isn't so concentrated in my penis and feels more spread out. Different sort of beast. So no worries! You aren't alone.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Masterchin » Sun Oct 02, 2016 10:05 am

Someone sucking or stroking my cock while toying seems to help. You already know how awesome you are for expanding your sexuality by toying. Anal stimulation and penis stimulation are different types of pleasures and use different neurons. Try to just enjoy the pleasure.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Soulstrider » Tue Oct 04, 2016 4:49 am

Thanks for all the responses guys! This really helps! ^w^
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Shardik » Tue Oct 04, 2016 8:03 am

Soulstrider wrote:Every time I've toyed at some point I have a tough time staying hard. I'm fine when not toying but it concerns me that my body is having a hard time with erections while toying anally. :doh:


I don't have this problem when I ride a toy cowboy style, but I do when I have it mounted to my fucking machine and am using it kneeling. I think part of the problem is that either I'm (a) relaxed enough to let the machine really do its thing and that state of relaxation is so profound (and it has to be, that machine can go 80 strokes per minute at 24 foot-pounds of torque!) that I just don't have the venous constriction necessary to keep it hard, or (b) I'm so nervous about being on the receiving end of a killer fucking robot that I'm worried about hurting myself and that's a real boner-killer too.

Or it could even be both!

I'm not sure what's going on in your case; it could be both here, too, just not to the extremes that I take it.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby GraveDigger78 » Fri Oct 28, 2016 8:35 am

I never stay hard when I'm going for a hands free finish but I have super amazing orgasms and cum a lot
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Robiland » Fri Oct 28, 2016 8:43 am

a ring helps a lot but it's just really hard to get 100% hard as everyone is saying. If you fixate or worry about how erect you are, you'll have an even harder time getting there though. It would for sure get in the way of fully enjoying yourself too.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby KatieCD » Fri Oct 28, 2016 9:27 am

I have the opposite problem, but I am almost 100% a bottom so it isn't really a problem I guess. I can still masturbate without anal stimulation but only if I'm really turned on.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Codyw99 » Fri Oct 28, 2016 11:41 am

Just chiming in...always been an issue for me as well. Freaked me out for a while. Had sex with my wife for a few weeks without anal toys. Wasn't an issue. Went back to anal toys. Couldn't stay hard. If I'm by myself, I don't worry about. I definitely reach orgasm by anal pretty much every time. However, when my wife and I are together, it's almost always she's toying me and I'm jacking off, or she's sucking me and I'm toying me, which is definitely my favorite combo. Don't worry too much about it. Just psychs you out and ruins the mood. Definitely normal. Watch porn. Guy on Guy, pegging, tranny, all definitely aren't always hard when getting anal. And for the record, I feel a P- spot orgasm, or anal orgasm, is waaaaay more enjoyable than cock(stroking, sucking, sex ect) orgasm. Not as much cum, but way more enjoyable. Lasts longer and definitely stronger. Have fun!
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Grimly Fiendish » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:12 pm

I think the issue is probably that the blood flow is being directed elsewhere. It's not because of a lack of desire, horniness, etc.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Lipton » Fri Oct 28, 2016 12:58 pm

Grimly Fiendish wrote:I think the issue is probably that the blood flow is being directed elsewhere. It's not because of a lack of desire, horniness, etc.


It's simply just a different type of stimulation
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby christoffer199 » Sun Nov 06, 2016 3:30 pm

Saromel wrote:It's normal and I don't think it changes anything. I can toy for hours and stay soft most of the time and I still enjoy myself.



said the best.
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby Saromel » Mon Nov 07, 2016 7:12 pm

christoffer199 wrote:said the best.


Uh, sorry?
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Re: Staying hard while toying

Postby christoffer199 » Mon Nov 07, 2016 8:44 pm

Saromel wrote:
christoffer199 wrote:said the best.


Uh, sorry?



for what you said. you said exactly what i was thinking.
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