Hello,
Alright this is a bit uncomfortable to talk about, but I'm really hoping there are people out there who could help me out. Please don't leave me hanging, I'm rather upset about this.

In order to give as much info as I can think of at the moment, let me state some facts:
I am a cis female.
I am very experienced with the toys I own.
I have never had issues with their textures.
Lubrication isn't a problem. My body does that just fine, and if I feel it's not adequate, I'll use BD's lube.
My libido has dramatic ups and downs. I am aware there may be some hormone issues.
I know I ought to see a gyno.

About 3 months months ago, while using my Nox, I noticed some discomfort. I thought this was a fluke considering it was the first time it had happened. But it has since happened (I believe) every time I have used a silicone toy.
The best way I can describe it is that it feels similar to when you toy too much for too long, or too fast and hard, or similar to the discomfort I sometimes feel when my period has started.
The location is near my gspot/urethral sponge. Sometimes this discomfort happens after a few minutes, sometimes its immediate. From what I can tell, there's no discomfort at the back or "bottom" of my vagina, nor my vulva.
I have tested non-silicone toys, and have tried using a trojan condom, but I have yet to come to a firm conclusion. I want to experiment with condoms further, but frankly, I have recently not been in the mood lately.
My question to you is... do you think I'v developed a silicone allergy? Or do you think something is going on with my anatomy?
I would think if it was an allergy, I would have issues in other places, rather than the pain localized where it is.
As you can Imagine, I am very concerned. Any input is appreciated.
Thanks.

It doesn't sound like an allergy to me, likely something with your anatomy. But as for what exactly, I don't know :C

Could overall girth be an issue? (are your non silicone toys as girthy as your silicone ones?)
Or maybe the drag from silicone (even when lube is adequate enough) be irritating it?

Do you have any issues when you aren't toying?
Do you have interstitial cystitis?

Vitani wrote:It doesn't sound like an allergy to me, likely something with your anatomy. But as for what exactly, I don't know :C

Could overall girth be an issue? (are your non silicone toys as girthy as your silicone ones?)
Or maybe the drag from silicone (even when lube is adequate enough) be irritating it?

vixenvega wrote:Do you have any issues when you aren't toying?
Do you have interstitial cystitis?

My other toys, which are glass, are not as girthy, no (~4-4.5). And I really don't know how it could be drag/friction, when I've never had the issue until recently :/ As far as girth on the silicone ones, I have the issue both with something as large as my small Sleipnir (~6.5) and as small as my small Nox (4.5-5.5)

No issues when I am not toying, and I do not have interstitial cystitis.

I'm also experiencing discomfort most of the time I toy or have sex. It is mostly all over the place so I'm not sure if it's the same problem you have.

How much foreplay do you usually have? More of it might help.

You can also try using more lube or different lube. (I sometimes get irritated by a lube that doesn't cause problems other times)

Or have a break for some time to recover.

Allergies aren't normally localized. if silicone isn't causing issues on other mucus membranes, like your mouth (if you think you're going to have an allergic reaction please don't accidentally kill yourself), then you don't have an allergy. I agree with switching lube, but again if it's a localized issue then lube likely isn't the problem.

I'd suggest waiting a month for your body to heal any micro-tares or whatever and drinking more water to make sure it can flush itself out. Your pee should be more clearer than colored. If you're flexible enough to use your hand or have a firm item you can use for probing, feel for any internal hard spots, sore spots, etc... Then do it again from the outside pushing inward.

If you don't take a break, document everything you do. The toy, how hard you were using it and for how long, lube levels, etc... and you might find a pattern.

You said discomfort not pain. Do you squirt? Perhaps your urethral sponge is starting to fill with fluid and you're not used to the sensation?

Raven wrote:I'm also experiencing discomfort most of the time I toy or have sex. It is mostly all over the place so I'm not sure if it's the same problem you have.

How much foreplay do you usually have? More of it might help.

You can also try using more lube or different lube. (I sometimes get irritated by a lube that doesn't cause problems other times)

Or have a break for some time to recover.

mynickname wrote:Allergies aren't normally localized. if silicone isn't causing issues on other mucus membranes, like your mouth (if you think you're going to have an allergic reaction please don't accidentally kill yourself), then you don't have an allergy. I agree with switching lube, but again if it's a localized issue then lube likely isn't the problem.

I'd suggest waiting a month for your body to heal any micro-tares or whatever and drinking more water to make sure it can flush itself out. Your pee should be more clearer than colored. If you're flexible enough to use your hand or have a firm item you can use for probing, feel for any internal hard spots, sore spots, etc... Then do it again from the outside pushing inward.

If you don't take a break, document everything you do. The toy, how hard you were using it and for how long, lube levels, etc... and you might find a pattern.

You said discomfort not pain. Do you squirt? Perhaps your urethral sponge is starting to fill with fluid and you're not used to the sensation?

See, it happens with and without lube. And I make sure I'm plenty ready before I begin with toys.
No I don't squirt. I would say that if I toy for too long it becomes almost painful, though.
I have taken breaks. I would say the past 3 times I've done penetration have had a week to a week and a half breaks between, and when I did toy, I was rather easy on myself.

The only thing I can think of is an inflammation issue or an infection of some sort. Maybe not vaginally, possibly in your urethra, but you have no issue when you're not toying and I would think that you would.

You should go to the gynecologist. They may have a better idea of the issue, but they can also visualize the spot and see if there is a visible physical issue along with a urine test.
Be insistent, don't let them write your pain off as a "normal female issue", it isn't so see a different doctor if that's the reaction you get.