No motivation or drive?

[wizerdwolf]

So, I'm wondering how other people handle not having the desire or motivation to toy and train?

I have my long-term goals of being able to hilt my XL Chance and future, larger toys, and these are things I still very much want to do, but for the past several months I've just not really felt the desire or motivation to toy. My broader sex-drive in general has also been sitting at an absolute 0 as well.

[MachineDoll]

There are more factors that go into sex drive than anyone really knows. Stress is a major factor. Diet and changes in lifestyle also are big ones. Then your body's hormones and chemicals will always play a role of course. If its less than 2 months, I wouldn't worry to much about it. Next week you might get super excited to "make up" for the current low. I certainly have roller-coasters of extreme ups and downs as far as sex drive.

[wizerdwolf]

There are more factors that go into sex drive than anyone really knows. Stress is a major factor. Diet and changes in lifestyle also are big ones. Then your body's hormones and chemicals will always play a role of course. If its less than 2 months, I wouldn't worry to much about it. Next week you might get super excited to "make up" for the current low. I certainly have roller-coasters of extreme ups and downs as far as sex drive.

Definitely been more than 2 months, but hopefully I'll be past it soon In general my libido hasn't been super high for the past several years, but this has been very low compared to my normal. I think it may be starting to ease off, but we shall see.

[MachineDoll]

Have you had any issues with sex drive with your partner, or only when toying? If the former, you should talk with your doctor. If its the latter, and it bothers you this much, it might not have a bad idea to talk with your doctor as well.

[wizerdwolf]

Have you had any issues with sex drive with your partner, or only when toying? If the former, you should talk with your doctor. If its the latter, and it bothers you this much, it might not have a bad idea to talk with your doctor as well.

My bf and I don't play too much with each other (not a drive issue so much as both bottoms issue xD )and by virtue of not really having any nearby fwb, it's mostly a matter of toying and such recently. Thanks for your advice.

[Grimly Fiendish]

When I'm getting lots of exercise and eating well, my sex drive is higher. If I'm not moving very much, and eating food that slows down my metabolism (deep fried foods, etc) then my drive is lower. If I eat food that upsets my stomach (super spicy, cheese, nuts, YMMV) I don't really want to toy.

Also, this is a really stressful time for some people, which can affect drive.

[wizerdwolf]

When I'm getting lots of exercise and eating well, my sex drive is higher. If I'm not moving very much, and eating food that slows down my metabolism (deep fried foods, etc) then my drive is lower. If I eat food that upsets my stomach (super spicy, cheese, nuts, YMMV) I don't really want to toy.

Also, this is a really stressful time for some people, which can affect drive.

While I don't have any dedicated "work out" time, I work 10 active hour shifts in a warehouse. It's an hour from home, so in the end I don't have any real time for exercise anyway. While I'm on no specific diet, can't say what I eat seems to bother my stomach. Rare I do any fried stuff nowadays as my bf's stomach is more sensative than mine, and he's the cook. Alas, this has been a thing since before the pandemic started. I do appreciate your input, though!

[Dee]

Biggest factor in my experience is work. Long shifts leaving you little time not just to play but prep and clean up? Totally kills your drive. Both bottoms huh? I can just imagine two guys fighting over a pretty horse dildo,
"Me first"
"No me"