NiamhTheNightOwl wrote:First of all, hi's hey and hellos to those of you who may or may not remember me
Second this is one of the hardest things I've ever had to write, and if you don't want to bum yourself out don't read the bit hidden by spoilers
Part one: I proposed to the girl I've been dating since I was thirteen, I proposed at her the beach, the very first one we went to as a couple, it was magical and followed up with what could only be described as the best sex of my life, we got married on Halloween last year, in cosplay etc, which was super fun, even though none of myfamily attended
*big rant time so heads up*
If it makes you feel better, all the people I've seen worry about it end up being decent parents. Mostly I think it's because it's a good sign that they actually care and they're more mindful of how they parent. This is going to sounds weird, but even if you don't love the kid right away or grow to love the kid it'll be fine as long as you're there for them as a stable force in their life. And I hear you, the idea of finally being that responsible adult that you were told to go to for help as a kid sounds scary. Lots of people are afraid they can't live up to that, and it's a justifiable fear since life is so damn complicated and unpredictable. The best we can do is grow as people by the time we're raising kids, at least enough to raise them into functional members of society. And it's fine if you still need to grow as a person by the time you have kids, as long as you're careful not to have it negatively affect the people in your life, child or adult. As someone who's had a parent go through the latter situation it's taught me that you can still be a good parent while needing to get some part of your life together.
(Slightly off topic)
This whole rant made me want to watch every episode of Steven Universe with Greg in it. He's my favorite dad character.