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I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Fableheart » Sun Feb 25, 2018 11:56 pm

Hey there. I hope this is the right place to post this; I wasn’t sure between this and adult. It is about toying.

Over the years, I’ve tried many different types of toy, and I do enjoy collecting. My vagina doesn’t, though. Be it sex or toying, I can’t feel anything. Like at all. At most, I feel stretched and basic sliding, but hardly any pleasure.

Be it smooth and shapely like Nox and David, to the more dramatic shapes like the Reptillian or Cyborg, I have had little to no success with vaginal pleasure. I can’t even feel IRL human dicks, so sex sucks. The best I have is my Crackers and Tantus Vamp. But still, it’s really hit and miss and mostly feels bruising than feels good. It is incredibly frustrating and I almost want to cry.

My question is, is there anyone out there like this, and if so, what do you use or do to subvert this and actually have rocking vaginal?
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Tallon » Mon Feb 26, 2018 12:28 am

You're not alone here. I toy with my fantasy stuff because the real thing does nothing for me at all, and toying vaginally alone won't give me any results. *If* I couple it with clitoral stim from a vibrating bullet, things can happen. The toying adds a little pressure. But no, I've never had the so-called g-spot going for me or a vaginal orgasm. I collect the toys because I actually enjoy collecting them and admire their shapes. Believe it or not, sometimes I get more pleasure orally fondling these fake dicks than I do using them vaginally.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby chickadee » Mon Feb 26, 2018 7:17 pm

I know someone who might be able to help you. She is a shaman and she lives in Arizona I think. Message me if you want more details.
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Postby reine » Tue Feb 27, 2018 1:55 pm

Are you on any medications? I know antidepressants can really mess with sex/pleasure-related stuff, and I've heard that hormonal birth control can also negatively impact that. Dunno about other meds, but I'd assume other things could have an effect, too.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Jasmine » Fri Mar 02, 2018 1:53 pm

My vagina is very sensitive to chaffing, but otherwise I can't feel much either. Toys (and sex) will rub me raw far faster than I'd like, even with copious lube use. Sex isn't pleasurable. Toying isn't much better, but I can generally get some sort of nice feeling from having a toy to clench on while I use a vibrator, but that's the main sensation I can feel- a feeling of having pressure or fullness. No birth control for the past year, no meds, just also feeling kinda broken.

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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby thesharkwhisperer » Fri Mar 02, 2018 3:06 pm

Same here. I barely toy internally anymore, I just do clit stim because that works. I envy people who say they are sensitive to texture and how they can feel a toy all the way in. Even with the firmest most textured toys I just vaguely feel like something is inside but nothing more.
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Postby Must <3 monsters 97 » Mon Mar 05, 2018 4:01 pm

I had a toy with veins all over it and sometimes I felt it a lot. During a different session it just irritated me but I didn't feel like I was really feeling it. Sexy holes are so finicky and unpredictable.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Faffy the FauxFox » Sat Mar 31, 2018 11:11 am

how much is someone supposed to feel with their vagina, I'm over thinking like 'vaginal braille"

I don't know if its my mind and mood and medications but I'm not all there. maybe it's the "female" death grip

but i think i get sleep orgasms, but i thought i read for some of the sexes/genders getting off is more mental and emotional and needs different touch. so un controlled dreams with invisible boyfriends make no sense (I think)
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Bea » Sat Mar 31, 2018 12:52 pm

Honestly the only reason I have toys is the thought of a monster/whatever screwing me is awesome. Its all in my head. Human dicks make me sick and I get no pleasure. Still, even with a fantasy dildo I need clit stim and usually porn.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Featherystorm » Wed Apr 04, 2018 10:24 pm

So I'm about to lay down some biological facts (This might be things you already know):

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What I'm saying is, you're not broken at all. It's just that your vagina probably doesn't have a lot of nerve endings. I myself can't get off unless my clitoris is being stimulated or I'm roughly thrusting a toy in and out until the point of over stimulation. Gentle toying just doesn't do anything for me. I'm texture insensitive as well so the deeper I toy, the less I feel. So yeah, this sounds like a pretty normal problem for people.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby semprerotic » Fri Apr 06, 2018 10:39 am

Fableheart wrote:Hey there. I hope this is the right place to post this; I wasn’t sure between this and adult. It is about toying.

Over the years, I’ve tried many different types of toy, and I do enjoy collecting. My vagina doesn’t, though. Be it sex or toying, I can’t feel anything. Like at all. At most, I feel stretched and basic sliding, but hardly any pleasure.

Be it smooth and shapely like Nox and David, to the more dramatic shapes like the Reptillian or Cyborg, I have had little to no success with vaginal pleasure. I can’t even feel IRL human dicks, so sex sucks. The best I have is my Crackers and Tantus Vamp. But still, it’s really hit and miss and mostly feels bruising than feels good. It is incredibly frustrating and I almost want to cry.

My question is, is there anyone out there like this, and if so, what do you use or do to subvert this and actually have rocking vaginal?


This may sound counter-intuitive, but Sex is first and foremost a mental experience. The chemicals of your brain change as you become aroused. The pleasure we seek does not necessary must come from our genitalia. We project into our bodies and minds situations and stimulus we wish to have with someone else or just ourselves, and the more intense those stimuli become, the more pleasure we feel. If you feel in any way unconfortable with your own body, the situation or you are not very aroused, you won't feel any pleasure from your vagina or anywhere else.

After I orgasm masturbating myself and lose my arousal, if I try to continue the movements, the exact same stimuli that was once pleasurable becomes uncomfortable or even painful.

If you cannot feel pleasure from touching yourself, this can be because you simply can't become aroused enough, be it for psychological or chemical reasons. Not exploring and feeling confortable enough with your body may also contribute negative to the whole experience.

AFAIK many women don't get orgasm for pure vaginal penetration, but many others do. So It varies from person to person due to all the facts I mentioned.

Some men (and women) can have orgasm from anal penetration but it is even less common, nevertheless we like to toy annally for a different intense stimulation that helps increasing the overall experience, but I finish off with regular masturbation just like many women do with clit during sex. Many men orgasm from oral stimulation, I don't find it much pleasurable.

A consultation with a psychologist or even a psychiatrist that has experience with sexuality can definitely help.

I know I'm a male but these are just my two cents.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Faffy the FauxFox » Fri May 04, 2018 4:11 pm

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Fableheart wrote:Hey there. I hope this is the right place to post this; I wasn’t sure between this and adult. It is about toying.

Over the years, I’ve tried many different types of toy, and I do enjoy collecting. My vagina doesn’t, though. Be it sex or toying, I can’t feel anything. Like at all. At most, I feel stretched and basic sliding, but hardly any pleasure.

Be it smooth and shapely like Nox and David, to the more dramatic shapes like the Reptillian or Cyborg, I have had little to no success with vaginal pleasure. I can’t even feel IRL human dicks, so sex sucks. The best I have is my Crackers and Tantus Vamp. But still, it’s really hit and miss and mostly feels bruising than feels good. It is incredibly frustrating and I almost want to cry.

My question is, is there anyone out there like this, and if so, what do you use or do to subvert this and actually have rocking vaginal?


This may sound counter-intuitive, but Sex is first and foremost a mental experience. The chemicals of your brain change as you become aroused. The pleasure we seek does not necessary must come from our genitalia. We project into our bodies and minds situations and stimulus we wish to have with someone else or just ourselves, and the more intense those stimuli become, the more pleasure we feel. If you feel in any way unconfortable with your own body, the situation or you are not very aroused, you won't feel any pleasure from your vagina or anywhere else.

After I orgasm masturbating myself and lose my arousal, if I try to continue the movements, the exact same stimuli that was once pleasurable becomes uncomfortable or even painful.

If you cannot feel pleasure from touching yourself, this can be because you simply can't become aroused enough, be it for psychological or chemical reasons. Not exploring and feeling confortable enough with your body may also contribute negative to the whole experience.

AFAIK many women don't get orgasm for pure vaginal penetration, but many others do. So It varies from person to person due to all the facts I mentioned.

Some men (and women) can have orgasm from anal penetration but it is even less common, nevertheless we like to toy annally for a different intense stimulation that helps increasing the overall experience, but I finish off with regular masturbation just like many women do with clit during sex. Many men orgasm from oral stimulation, I don't find it much pleasurable.

A consultation with a psychologist or even a psychiatrist that has experience with sexuality can definitely help.

I know I'm a male but these are just my two cents.



but is mental masturbation a thing? to imagine tactile hallucinations?
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby CakeLurker » Fri May 04, 2018 4:58 pm

Faffy the FauxFox wrote:but is mental masturbation a thing? to imagine tactile hallucinations?

People can daydream the craziest of things while at work, at lunch, in bed, etc. So... yeah?
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Tempest » Wed May 09, 2018 6:17 pm

CakeLurker wrote:
Faffy the FauxFox wrote:but is mental masturbation a thing? to imagine tactile hallucinations?

People can daydream the craziest of things while at work, at lunch, in bed, etc. So... yeah?

It's like a wet dream, but when you're awake.

I've done it exactly once. It was weird, but cool. It happened shortly after I woke up, while I was still lying in bed. I'd gotten fucked the night before but hadn't cum, so I was pretty pent up. I just fantasized about it, wasn't trying to accomplish anything, but I came just from that.

Haven't been able to do it again, though I have tried. Ah, well. :stick:
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby LittleZeroThatCould » Mon May 14, 2018 3:32 pm

For me, it's definitely been like 75% mental, 25% physical. Like, yeah, these things are cool, and I especially love the tubes adding to a 'finale' moment at the end, but more importantly, when I finish warming the toy, and I'm holding it in my hands, feeling the swells and textures beneath my fingers, my mind begins to wander.

What is this bad boy attached to?

Why is it so thick when I touch it?

How long has this beast been without release?

Is this going to effect how rough or gentle the experience will be?

But most importantly, what's going to happen after it's done with me?

Obviously, we can say that the answers are all very simple; it's an inanimate object, subject to my will and how I want to use it. But that's not the point I'm getting at. The point is that while I'm there, my imagination is filling in all the blanks. I'm no longer mentally in my bedroom. I'm a Level 7 Rogue who failed that attempt at spotting a trap in the dungeon, and now here comes the mid-boss. I'm the spy in the night who got caught in the wrong fortress. I'm the servant who got too carried away when tending the stables, and bit off more than she could chew.

It doesn't matter. For those two hours, reality takes a back seat to degenerate smut, and THAT is what gets me to the finish line, not the actual physical act itself.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby semprerotic » Mon May 28, 2018 1:10 pm

Faffy the FauxFox wrote:
but is mental masturbation a thing? to imagine tactile hallucinations?


Yes. I've actually orgasmed and ejaculated once in my life without even touching myself. Just by thinking in erotic situations. I was quite young (15yo) and my hormones and excitation levels were considerably higher than they are now. But it is possible.
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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Moldtomato » Fri Jun 22, 2018 8:12 pm

Having the same issue. Most of my pleasure comes from fantasizing and outside stimulation. For a long time I though I ran out off energy(was before I found out I'm ace) and then I thought it has something to with my asexuality. Checked for informations about the famous "G-spot" (because I wanted to get the most out off my few nightly enjoyments) and came across articles like that: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/g-s ... _n_5947930

Curious what you think? Especially since the things mentioned make a lot of sense.
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Postby salticue » Sun Jun 24, 2018 12:02 pm

I thought I was the only one experiencing this but its good to know I'm not alone. Vaginal penetration does nothing for me it's the equivalent of someone touching your shoulder, you feel it but it's just there.. you know? You don't really get a sensation from it. Saying this I'd like to add that while I have virtually no good feeling from sex my cervix is pretty sensitive if knocked up against or pressure is applied.

Ways I've learned to get around this issue is foreplay and lots of it. I know that sex is never going to get me off like I'd like it to so I use foreplay to bring me to the brink and it's quite a nice change from rubbing myself raw to feel something. If I do use a toy or a person for penetration I found that grinding feels the best for me. Long thrusts are a big no-no but if you only slide it out by an inch or so it's fine.

Some tips and tricks include inserting a fairly thick toy inside and closing your legs so that you can feel your walls constraining around the toy, use a vibrator on your clit while you sit back and watch your favourite video. If you naturally produce a lot of lubricant you can take your toy out from inside of you and rub it against your clit, the tip of the toy should be warm from the difference in temperature internally. That full feeling I get from the toy combined with clit stimulation is my go to since I can't experience normal sex.
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Postby Raya » Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:59 pm

I too can't feel anything inside too, only if i do hard thrusts to the point of pain. My clit is REALLY sensitive but inside I get almost nothing.
The first time I had sex my ex managed to find a spot that felt amazing but him being overweight he couldn't fit it long before he got tired, then couldn't find it again. Iv only been able to find it once since then.

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Re: I think I’m broken tbh.

Postby Prnk » Thu Jun 28, 2018 4:35 am

I do not mean to be rude or make light of your conundrum, but I think you aren't tackling at the problem from the right angle.
However, everyone's body, mind etc vary vastly so I'm not entirely sure of how much of what I'm about to say actually applies to you specifically.

But one thing I'm certain is that the negative attitude is hampering you the most: there are various types of orgasms that can be achieved by countless methods, but having the right mindset/mood is always a requisite. It also takes practice, in a way that is not dissimilar to muscle memory (however, almost purely as an analogy of course).

I'll grant you that it is a long journey and a great amount of motivation is required until you get your first results, which might even leave you confused and thinking "huh? that's it? is that almost irrelevant feeling the fabled orgasm everyone crazes about?"
But it's damn well worth the effort.

Now, I realize I should have mentioned this earlier as a sort of disclaimer perhaps, but I am male. However I really doubt that it has any relevance when it comes down to achieving orgasms by light rubs on your skin, or just thinking yourself into one. It took me almost two years to have a prostate orgasm that felt satisfactory, but that was only the early stages. It didn't take as much work to experience nipple orgasms, anal orgasms (which is a pretty wide category by itself, there's at least 3 different types excluding prostate orgasms), orgasming just by lightly touching soft fabric, hypnosis, self-hypnosis et-cetera

I might even recommend you try what would be the "female equivalent of prostate stimulation", that would be cervix stimulation; not from the outside however, but by applying pressure and rubbing your lower abdomen (hypogastrium) the right way, in the right places, for the right amount of time. Of course figuring all that out takes times, lots of times, and effort; but I think we can all agree that it's worth it.
Also keep in mind that there's much more to it than just the friction of a dildo going in and out to stimulate your nerves. Pressure, heat, electrostimulation, the feeling of buoyancy, etc
And when combined with the right fetishes, that might be just what you need to tip you over the edges.

Then there's also medical supplement and herbal teas (I prefer the term tisane, as no tea tree leaves are actually used), that help improve blood flow, hormonal balances, helps relax muscles and/or the nervous system and also the fact that it's just nice drinking a warm beverage when you feel like it. Damiana, Passiflora, Nymphaea Caerulea comes to mind, to name only the most popular choices; keep in mind that they might be regulated in some states, the UK and some other south-east asian countries, so I would recommend looking that up before ordering anything.

However, if you care only for vaginal orgasms, my best guess would be for you to combine vaginal stimulation with any other stimulation that actually leads to orgasms, and basically condition your body to respond to vaginal stimulation. Or have someone help you do it, to make it less of a chore.

But as a closing note, what matters the most is your mood/mindset. Achieving an orgasm by sheer force of mind is not too dissimilar as becoming angry by force of will for the purpose of acting; getting into the mood, having the right breathing rhythm and volume, getting the hormones and neurotransmitters at the right levels, and really getting into it with your whole body and mind. If you can just manage to achieve it once, you'll have found out just how much it takes and how to get there, so it'll be so much easier to achieve subsequently. Not to mention the confidence boost you get from finally achieving your goal. Getting to that first orgasm is where most of the work is required, but the fun really starts from there on.

N.B. As I mentioned earlier, there's a plethora of ways to stimulate your body, and all lead to a different kind of orgasms, some might be stronger, some might feel more relaxing, some might be easier to achieve than others. I'd encourage you to read up on the subject and make your mind up on your own, just take everything with a grain of salt as no two person experience the same thing the same way. There's also a lot of rubbish, like the terms "tantra", "power orgasm" and so on being thrown around with no real thought behind. I haven't found much studies on those, let's say "non regular" ways to achieve orgasm; not that there's a lot on the regular stuff either.
Also, someone mentioned that it just feels like "a rub on the shoulder". I'd heavily suggest you try achieving orgasms by gently rubbing area of your skin that are somewhat ticklish as they tend to be more sensitive, some good spots are the inner thigh, the sole of the feet, the scalp, the face, ears, armpits and right above the gluteal cleft. I don't really like the term "erogenous zone" as virtually any part of the body with nerve ending is basically an erogenous zone when given the right stimulation.

Hope this helps.

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