Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Do you have a question about firmness? Wondering how to take the knot? This is the place to seek your answers from other Forum users and customers!
PLEASE NOTE that if you require a reply from a Staff member, you will need to send in a support ticket! Visit help.bad-dragon.com for more information.
AmethystFlight
Posts: 19
Joined: Wed Sep 18, 2013 6:22 pm
Gender: Female

Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby AmethystFlight » Tue Mar 12, 2019 8:33 am

Okay, so, being completely honest here: I have an oral kink. Like, that is my thing. I love cock worship. Unfortunately, I also have an extremely sensitive gag reflex. So, Bad Dragon community, I'm coming to you for help. Has anyone else had this problem, and if so, how did you desensitize it? Tell me about your method, how quickly did it work? How often did you have to do it?

I want to get to the point where I can take my boyfriend completely without tearing up and gagging on him.
User avatar
MachineDoll
Posts: 323
Joined: Thu Jul 20, 2017 8:20 am
Gender: Female
Location: Idaho

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby MachineDoll » Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:01 pm

I have a bad reflex as well and try as I might, I have issues as well. However, I have a great partner that's always told me "Sweetheart, you're gagging on me. That's the sweetest thing a guy can ask for. You're basically saying you'd rather have my cock in your mouth than breathe air."

Doesn't help my gag reflex at all, but it does make my day a lot better.
Ovipositor and egg laying enthusiast. Princess by day, knotty at night.
My toys:
► Show Spoiler
User avatar
RainbowNanaki
Posts: 109
Joined: Fri Dec 15, 2017 12:43 am
Gender: Male/Transguy
Location: Ontario, Canada

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby RainbowNanaki » Wed Mar 13, 2019 10:34 am

The only thing that has lessened my gag reflex a bit was developing an eating disorder, which...I don't recommend :misc4: :doh:
gay/23/transguy/extremely single
:misc6: :eyeroll:

My Toys

► Show Spoiler
User avatar
Grimly Fiendish
Posts: 845
Joined: Sat May 28, 2016 11:07 pm
Location: Ogresville

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby Grimly Fiendish » Wed Mar 13, 2019 1:18 pm

Some people have their uvula removed, in order to try to stop snoring (the little 'punching bag' tissue at the back of your throat.)

I wouldn't suggest it (it apparently doesn't improve snoring problems) but I wonder if it would help with your gag reflex.
User avatar
Padre
Posts: 333
Joined: Sun Dec 24, 2017 5:47 am
Gender: male
Location: Germany

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby Padre » Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:39 am

Grimly Fiendish wrote:Some people have their uvula removed, in order to try to stop snoring (the little 'punching bag' tissue at the back of your throat.)

I wouldn't suggest it (it apparently doesn't improve snoring problems) but I wonder if it would help with your gag reflex.


......Please don't remove a body part for the sake of better blowjobs. How shitty would it be to die of something completely avoidable, just because you removed the part that was supposed to initiate a potentially life-saving reflex?

@ OP: The only working way I know to get better at that is practise practise practise. Train with a toy and lots of patience, a little bit every other day, and soon you'll see improvement -- It's all about learning to relax your body and not panic, that just takes time.
Breathing through your nose and laying on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed helps in my experience, the latter aligns your mouth and throat in more of a straight line. You probably saw that kind of pose in porn now and then?
—German|Artist|Bisexual—
Pseudo cleric with a preference for dragon dongs.

[Owned: Flint|Pretzal|Nox|Hunter|Bruce|Zaratan|Plenty non-BD >>Listed on profile!]
User avatar
Lipton
Posts: 746
Joined: Thu Feb 18, 2016 11:24 am
Gender: Male
Location: Germany

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby Lipton » Thu Mar 14, 2019 4:05 am

Padre wrote:
Grimly Fiendish wrote:Some people have their uvula removed, in order to try to stop snoring (the little 'punching bag' tissue at the back of your throat.)

I wouldn't suggest it (it apparently doesn't improve snoring problems) but I wonder if it would help with your gag reflex.


......Please don't remove a body part for the sake of better blowjobs. How shitty would it be to die of something completely avoidable, just because you removed the part that was supposed to initiate a potentially life-saving reflex?

@ OP: The only working way I know to get better at that is practise practise practise. Train with a toy and lots of patience, a little bit every other day, and soon you'll see improvement -- It's all about learning to relax your body and not panic, that just takes time.
Breathing through your nose and laying on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed helps in my experience, the latter aligns your mouth and throat in more of a straight line. You probably saw that kind of pose in porn now and then?


Basically this. Learn it instead of forcing it otherwise you will just harm yourself.
Toys I want to buy:
- Elypse Art: Neo & Vixen
- BD April Fool Toys: Red Rocket & Fire Hydrant

I'm located in Germany, feel free to send me a message if you're selling one of these.
AmethystFlight
Posts: 19
Joined: Wed Sep 18, 2013 6:22 pm
Gender: Female

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby AmethystFlight » Thu Mar 14, 2019 6:04 am

@MachineDoll Omg that's so sweet <3 <3 Relationship goals right there!!

@Padre Oh no no do not worry, I'm not going to remove anything like that. Ngl that made me shudder in a not-so-nice way.

I def try to practice as much as I can, but bc it's so sensitive, I see no real improvement. I've even tried those numbing throat sprays, and it just makes it uncomfortable for me. I'll try the bed trick during practice, but I'd rather not actively use that with my boyfriend. I e never seen that before, though, so it sounds like a really good idea!!
User avatar
Padre
Posts: 333
Joined: Sun Dec 24, 2017 5:47 am
Gender: male
Location: Germany

Re: Oral Play - Desensitizing a gag reflex

Postby Padre » Thu Mar 14, 2019 7:12 am

AmethystFlight wrote:@MachineDoll Omg that's so sweet <3 <3 Relationship goals right there!!

@Padre Oh no no do not worry, I'm not going to remove anything like that. Ngl that made me shudder in a not-so-nice way.

I def try to practice as much as I can, but bc it's so sensitive, I see no real improvement. I've even tried those numbing throat sprays, and it just makes it uncomfortable for me. I'll try the bed trick during practice, but I'd rather not actively use that with my boyfriend. I e never seen that before, though, so it sounds like a really good idea!!


Sadly I can't tell you more than have patience, it's a slow progress to unlearn what took millennia of evolution to work the way it does :')

Have you tried it with your boyfriend yet? Telling him to go slow and shallow as possible? Sometimes it's easier to just lie down and 100% focus on relaxing, instead of having to focus on moving the toy too.
—German|Artist|Bisexual—
Pseudo cleric with a preference for dragon dongs.

[Owned: Flint|Pretzal|Nox|Hunter|Bruce|Zaratan|Plenty non-BD >>Listed on profile!]

Return to “Community Help and FAQs”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 3 guests