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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Blue Sapphire » Thu Jul 18, 2019 10:43 am

Robiland wrote:Anyone here experienced with "dry" enemas? Instead of using water or any substantial amount of fluid, you use something like a BD cumlube syringe to inject about 2 tsp of lube, then ideally let it sit for 30 minutes before you finish.

I can't deal with water enemas being so unreliable, most of the time I spend all this time getting prepared and then it's like "oh nevermind I'm not going to be clean no matter what today". I am also fed up with waiting for the stars to align for a naturally clean anal session. I swear I almost never get to play with myself and I really want to all the time.

Hopefully this works out well. It seems like it is the most sensible way and it's like very uncommitted to just put 2 tsp of lube inside of you. Relative to the extreme commitment that a water enema is anyway. I can just go on about my day normally this way and if it ends up working out then that's great, if not then it's not a big deal. It's always a big deal when a water enema doesn't lead to anal for me. I feel really discouraged and let down when I go to that trouble just to have to give up in the end. I don't even bother anymore I just wait for a natural session to present itself but really I think there are too many stars that have to line up for that to happen so I think I'm just waiting on nothing.

I really struggle with the preparation part of anal and it's just the worst. Hopefully someone has good anecdotal experiences regarding dry enemas to share.



Never heard of that, but since I have quite the same issue (I envy all the people that are just able to get some anal without any preparation AND without a mess :bugeyed: ) I might try this one once I have some means to insert it. If you have tried it already: How did it work out for you?
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Robiland » Thu Jul 18, 2019 4:28 pm

Blue Sapphire wrote:Never heard of that, but since I have quite the same issue (I envy all the people that are just able to get some anal without any preparation AND without a mess :bugeyed: ) I might try this one once I have some means to insert it. If you have tried it already: How did it work out for you?


It worked out very well considering I did it just randomly after reading about it with no prior planning. I don't think I'll be doing it any other way. There is a wikipedia article on it and several other sources mention it, seems legit from my one time experience.

I'm interested to try it with extra virgin coconut oil, since that will provide further benefits during the session as it's oil based so I will stay slick, and doesn't absorb water the way water based lubes do. That's the one thing I am uncertain about with this method, as it can be irritating to be exposed to water based lube for an extended period of time. Yet it didn't irritate me at all despite being pretty sensitive normally.

Water enemas always irritate me and necessitate waiting between finishing cleaning and playing. Just kills my arousal to put it simply. While a dry enema turns me on :P. I just need to figure out whether coconut oil is a viable option, and if it's not, to find an alternative bulk lube that plays nice with my body.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Grimly Fiendish » Thu Jul 18, 2019 5:25 pm

Robiland wrote:Anyone here experienced with "dry" enemas? Instead of using water or any substantial amount of fluid, you use something like a BD cumlube syringe to inject about 2 tsp of lube, then ideally let it sit for 30 minutes before you finish.

I can't deal with water enemas being so unreliable, most of the time I spend all this time getting prepared and then it's like "oh nevermind I'm not going to be clean no matter what today". I am also fed up with waiting for the stars to align for a naturally clean anal session. I swear I almost never get to play with myself and I really want to all the time.

Hopefully this works out well. It seems like it is the most sensible way and it's like very uncommitted to just put 2 tsp of lube inside of you. Relative to the extreme commitment that a water enema is anyway. I can just go on about my day normally this way and if it ends up working out then that's great, if not then it's not a big deal. It's always a big deal when a water enema doesn't lead to anal for me. I feel really discouraged and let down when I go to that trouble just to have to give up in the end. I don't even bother anymore I just wait for a natural session to present itself but really I think there are too many stars that have to line up for that to happen so I think I'm just waiting on nothing.

I really struggle with the preparation part of anal and it's just the worst. Hopefully someone has good anecdotal experiences regarding dry enemas to share.


It's easy to use too much water. A bulb sized enema or even half bulb (fill it all the way up with water, just don't use all the water) can be good for times you aren't going deep or using large toys. Using lots of water is necessary for depth play IMO and is a bigger time commitment.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Robiland » Thu Jul 18, 2019 10:07 pm

Grimly Fiendish wrote:It's easy to use too much water. A bulb sized enema or even half bulb (fill it all the way up with water, just don't use all the water) can be good for times you aren't going deep or using large toys. Using lots of water is necessary for depth play IMO and is a bigger time commitment.


I understand, this is not what I was asking about though. I've read all there is to read about water enemas and I've tried it every way. It's simply not for me. I'd rather just wait for the stars to align than mess with that again, if it's the only way to have control over the sessions. I don't believe it is the only way to make a session happen at will after my first experience with dry enemas though. Have you ever tried the method I posted about?
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Grimly Fiendish » Sat Jul 20, 2019 8:07 pm

Robiland wrote:
Grimly Fiendish wrote:It's easy to use too much water. A bulb sized enema or even half bulb (fill it all the way up with water, just don't use all the water) can be good for times you aren't going deep or using large toys. Using lots of water is necessary for depth play IMO and is a bigger time commitment.


I understand, this is not what I was asking about though. I've read all there is to read about water enemas and I've tried it every way. It's simply not for me. I'd rather just wait for the stars to align than mess with that again, if it's the only way to have control over the sessions. I don't believe it is the only way to make a session happen at will after my first experience with dry enemas though. Have you ever tried the method I posted about?


I have not tried your method. In my view, a small washout is useful to rinse out the rectum. IMO, that's never a bad thing, and unrelated to timing, stars aligning etc.

Since J-Lube and Cum Lube are water based (and water is absorbed rectally, resulting in less slipperiness) it's also a good idea to have a moist rectum when playing, IMO. So a small washout with water helps to add moisture.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Robiland » Sun Jul 21, 2019 9:36 pm

Grimly Fiendish wrote:I have not tried your method. In my view, a small washout is useful to rinse out the rectum. IMO, that's never a bad thing, and unrelated to timing, stars aligning etc.

Since J-Lube and Cum Lube are water based (and water is absorbed rectally, resulting in less slipperiness) it's also a good idea to have a moist rectum when playing, IMO. So a small washout with water helps to add moisture.


Is this like some kind of able-bodied privilege flex or something? Water enemas are not even remotely natural. Sure they work for a lot of people, but not for everyone. I don't want to just ignore you, but I'm not going to respond to another off-topic reply. I never said it was a bad thing, I never said it was something people should avoid doing because it's dangerous or whatever. It just doesn't work with my body and I'm done wasting my time with it.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Dee » Wed Jul 31, 2019 5:03 pm

Robiland wrote:
Grimly Fiendish wrote:I have not tried your method. In my view, a small washout is useful to rinse out the rectum. IMO, that's never a bad thing, and unrelated to timing, stars aligning etc.

Since J-Lube and Cum Lube are water based (and water is absorbed rectally, resulting in less slipperiness) it's also a good idea to have a moist rectum when playing, IMO. So a small washout with water helps to add moisture.


Is this like some kind of able-bodied privilege flex or something? Water enemas are not even remotely natural. Sure they work for a lot of people, but not for everyone. I don't want to just ignore you, but I'm not going to respond to another off-topic reply. I never said it was a bad thing, I never said it was something people should avoid doing because it's dangerous or whatever. It just doesn't work with my body and I'm done wasting my time with it.

I have 2 ways I play, comfortable or clean, I don't think both is possible.
Comfortable: Lots of lube on a fairly flared toy, like a 12 inch human dick (yuck; humans! [I think a chance flared would be much better for this but I only have flared in XL, not a very good warm up toy!]) literally rinse and repeat about ten times. Messy but cleans enough I then have a few hours I can enjoy nice and clean.
Clean: 2-3 liter enema, then wait, ages, then another 2-3 liters, then wait ages, with many trips to drain out. Very clean results, but just annoying. As someone else mentioned, I think the best option is a combination, a bulb squirt then just go for it.

It's a push to say I wish I was into scat, but if I was, it would be so much easier liking toys in my butt.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby Robiland » Thu Aug 01, 2019 8:43 am

Dee wrote:I have 2 ways I play, comfortable or clean, I don't think both is possible.
Comfortable: Lots of lube on a fairly flared toy, like a 12 inch human dick (yuck; humans! [I think a chance flared would be much better for this but I only have flared in XL, not a very good warm up toy!]) literally rinse and repeat about ten times. Messy but cleans enough I then have a few hours I can enjoy nice and clean.
Clean: 2-3 liter enema, then wait, ages, then another 2-3 liters, then wait ages, with many trips to drain out. Very clean results, but just annoying. As someone else mentioned, I think the best option is a combination, a bulb squirt then just go for it.

It's a push to say I wish I was into scat, but if I was, it would be so much easier liking toys in my butt.


Maybe you are right and what I want is a pipedream, but I also just don't know. Further experimentation is necessary before I give up on an alternative to water enemas that works better for me. Either way it's like I can't get the regularity I want so I don't know if it's worth trying with water enemas, better to just wait, but water enemas at least give control over it instead of feeling like you have to wait for a special day.

It's probably the case that everyone struggles the same with water enemas and I just give up on making it work too soon because I am too worried about the sheer volume of water I am putting through my bowels. If you put too much water through it can mess with your electrolyte levels, but I guess sports drinks or something could solve that.

Either way it seems like it's definitely impossible to have anal on a regular basis unless you don't mind getting messy. I think we feel the same about scat. Maybe if I didn't eat and play like an athlete it could be feasible, but I eat quite a bit of food lol. Would be nice to give up on athletic prowess and focus entirely on sexual prowess but meh, I like sports too much. I'd also end up too feminine for my own gender identity, and I already walk the line of what feels right for me.

Thanks for sharing. Talking about this part of anal is always like talking about the elephant in the room.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby draqen » Tue Jan 07, 2020 12:41 am

Heya, do you guys have any advice on being able to take toys deeper? I seem to be fine with girth but depth i just struggle with. I can get toys about 5-6" in, and any further than that they just feel like i'm getting stabbed or something and it's quite painful if i try to force it. I've tried different positions and different toys, but the same thing just happens.
I've got a medium Duke, and i can get it most of the way in, but not all the way as it just hurts. I've got a large flared chance too which is fairly soft, but i can only get him in 5"ish before i start getting that "ow im being stabbed" feeling in my ass xD.

Is there some trick to being able to take toys deeply? I'm so jelly of the guys who can just take a whole horse toy haha.
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Re: Anal Sex advice thread

Postby KnotyDes » Tue Jan 07, 2020 2:45 pm

draqen wrote:Heya, do you guys have any advice on being able to take toys deeper? I seem to be fine with girth but depth i just struggle with. I can get toys about 5-6" in, and any further than that they just feel like i'm getting stabbed or something and it's quite painful if i try to force it. I've tried different positions and different toys, but the same thing just happens.
I've got a medium Duke, and i can get it most of the way in, but not all the way as it just hurts. I've got a large flared chance too which is fairly soft, but i can only get him in 5"ish before i start getting that "ow im being stabbed" feeling in my ass xD.

Is there some trick to being able to take toys deeply? I'm so jelly of the guys who can just take a whole horse toy haha.

lots of practice

practice going deep with thinner toys then work your way up to L chance. you might have to start really thin, lets say something around 1" thick then gradually work your way up. It kinda sucks, but that might be what you have to do. or you can get a very well tapered toy to train/warm up with like Ika.

Check out SquarePeg for good trainers. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/ my personal fav is Slink. they also have depth probes and a number of other things. i also recommend reading their depth training intro. its basic info but helpful
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